Anita Counselling Service is based on a psychological connection between the person coming for support and the Counsellor. The focus is on the person to feel heard, understood and be accepted as themselves. The Person-Centred approach offers the client empathy, being congruent and having an unconditional positive regard for the client, (Rogers, 1957). The Counsellor shows a sense of being grounded and safe, where their nervous system is in a calm state and they can engage with you to co-regulate your nervous system.
It is an unseen process of self-awareness, understanding your own reactions and responses to others and becoming a version of yourself, where you feel that you have autonomy.
As a younger person, you may have experienced conditions of worth, where your own sense of being loved or approval, came with conditions. These could have represented the need to focus on other people's needs and disregard your own needs. It could have meant that you had to clean the house, organise the dinners, look after siblings or to take on the role of the adult in the household to support other people's emotional needs.
Counselling can support you through a process of awareness to see yourself in a new way. Finding your own identity, from your values and morals. A new perspective on strengthening your inner self, to enhance how you choose to make choices and decisions and trusting your own instincts.
It is a difficult process and takes time to change, how you have been living your life. Your sense of worth and confidence starts to grow and the negative thoughts slowly change with a new version of yourself.
Counselling draws on the connection between both the client and the Counsellor. Building a relationship of trust, in a safe enough space. It is not selfish to look after yourself, it is selfless to become your true self.
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